Thanks HYP,
I do appreciate what you have said and I do understand your reaction for the most part, even if a little surprised by it.
The bigger part of the reason why I said I wouldn't attend a meet if I knew you were there is that my daughter comes with me pretty well everywhere I go.
As much as you seem sincere, I cant risk that something could happen in front of her.
I'm sure if you have kids of your own, you'll understand there are times you need to pre-empt things, other parents will agree.
Given that you were good enough to step up, so I wont go out of my way to avoid you.